How to Tell Friends and Family that you’re Eloping

It’s understandable that you might be feeling nervous about the moment when you tell friends and family that you’re eloping. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but you also don’t want to feel pressured into a wedding you don’t want to have. Whether you are inviting a few guests or none at all, it’s important to consider how you’ll break the news.

There are a few ways to go about this. Some couples choose to tell everyone they know in advance, some decide to keep it a secret until after the fact. Whatever you do, make a decision that feels true to you so that you can enjoy your day without worrying about what others will think. Here are a few tips on how to break the news.

1 – Tell Friends and Family you’re Eloping in Person

Face-to-face communication makes it so much easier to explain your decision and easily overcome any objections. If you aren’t able to meet face-to-face, try a Zoom call.

a bride looks back toward the camera during her grand teton national park elopement

2 – Explain your Why when you Tell Friends and Family that you’re Eloping

Many family members simply don’t understand the concept of an elopement and which may leave them feeling left out. It’s important to explain that you aren’t eloping to purposely exclude them, but to have a wedding that’s true to who you are as a couple. Here are a few common reasons couples choose to elope:

  • We wanted to say our vows in a private and beautiful place that simply won’t accommodate a large number of guests
  • We wanted to do sometime meaningful to us on our wedding day.
  • We wanted a stress-free wedding.
  • We are saving our money for a house, trip, investment, etc. rather than spend it on a large event.

a bride and groom enjoy a quiet moment together by the river in oregon

3 – Get them Involved

If you feel comfortable, you can share your elopement details with your friends and family and include them in the planning process. This will help them feel included while you still get to have the wedding day of your dreams!

a bride and groom enjoy a beer together on kalaloch beach after their elopement in olympic national park

4 – Share your Photos

When the elopement day is over and your photos come back, make a big deal about sharing your amazing photos with those that didn’t attend. Throw a dinner party, pop open some bubbles, and share the details of your incredible experience with those you love.

a bride and groom walk excitedly towards the olympic mountains at sunset

While it may be uncomfortable to tell friends and family that you’re eloping, remember this day is for you. You deserve to get married the way you want!

Need more information about including friends and family in your elopement? Check out these posts:

Should you Invite Guests to an Elopement

5 Small Wedding Ideas for an Intimate Wedding Day

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